Wedding Planning – Who’s Wedding Is It Anyway?

I bet that you heard the following statements relating to weddings:

In the past, tradition called for the bride & her family to plan, & be responsible for the wedding. Do you follow? The groom & his family were often, but not always, asked to take part in specific aspects such as: Flowers for the bride, the mothers, the groom & male attendants, Music & the Officiant.

Times, they’re changing!

The traditional family of “Leave it to Beaver” where the man worked out of the house, supporting the family while the wife stayed home caring for the home & the children is reserved to too few families.

Today, both men & women work, earning a living & sharing responsibilities for the home & the children. It has become commonplace for men to shop, do housework & care for their children. In fact the term “House Husband” no longer sounds strange. Also, More & more brides & grooms live together prior to marriage.

The traditional responsibility of the bride’s parents to plan & fulfill their daughter’s dream wedding has shifted. Today, a majority of the working brides & grooms pay all, or a large percentage of the wedding costs.

Another change in the wedding scene is the large number of brides & grooms who have been married before. Their weddings may include children.

So, who’s wedding is it anyway?

The bride’s & the groom’s of course!

In fact, quite frequently, it’s recognized not just with engagement parties for both but also with wedding showers where both bride & groom are showered with gifts. Did you notice the change from BRIDAL SHOWER to WEDDING SHOWER?

Though there’re still some aspects specific to brides or grooms, they should plan their big day together. It’s important that each of them bears the responsibility & commitment to their relationship as a soon to be a married couple. Preparing for their wedding day is a great exercise. It’s also an important judge as to how comfortable with, & yielding to each other the bride & groom are.

Today’s grooms are just as excited as their brides at the prospect of their upcoming marriage. They do not want to be guests at their own wedding. Rather, they want to be active participants in planning their wedding & honeymoon with their brides. There is more. They want to contribute financially, they want their opinions considered & they want to be involved in the decision making. Working as a team planning the wedding, gives the bride & groom a wonderful opportunity to dream together, share their thoughts, plan together & have the wedding of their dream. All the while, sharing the excitement, fun & occasional disagreements & resolutions, associated with wedding planning & later, with married life.

Working together brings the bride & groom closer together as they learn more & more about each other, & is a good beginning to later, jointly plan their life together.

We have seen the trend gaining momentum, as brides often ask A-wedding Day how to involve their grooms in planning their wedding. We have also noticed a dramatic increase in the number of men purchasing not just jewelry & gifts, but wedding accessories for the ceremony & reception.

You plan to share your life as a couple, you owe it to both of you to plan your wedding as a couple. You will enjoy a rewarding experience, the memories of which will last a lifetime.

Copyrights 2007 All Rights Reserved Nily Glaser

Nily Glaser who is an educator & a published author, is the CEO of A-wedding Day at: http://www.a-weddingday.com

She writes important articles, & has presented work shops for wedding professionals all over the USA.

Nily Glaser pays special attention to enlighten educators, families & wedding professionals.
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