The problem with recently divorced single parents is that are waiting too long to start dating again, complaining they’re oh, so busy. The real reason is their fears, because their previous situation was usually so ugly, they do not have a strong enough ego to let rejections roll off their back.

Even if they’re starting to date, in most cases are doing this for the wrong reasons. Some single parents think they’re in competition with their ex, particularly if they were left for a younger partner. They also might be playing a game to prove to the ex that they’re desirable by dating as many people as possible. In a nutshell, do not date for emotional revenge, to allay feelings of loneliness or to prove your desirability to others.

After a divorce, both parties are tented to change partners almost every week or month & are not in the mood to compromise with somebody.

But after a while especially single fathers are feeling the need to have a life partner & a mother for their children.

If you’re a single father & you’re determined to find some one for a long time relationship you have to be sure that you’re making the best choice because now you’re not alone, you’re making the choice not just for you but for your children too.

There are some gold rules to consider that can assist you to find the best mom for your children & the best lover for you:

1. As there is no surer turn-off for a potential lover than a person who insists on living in the past, make a rule for yourself that you’re going to do your absolute best not to drag the past into new relationships.

2. Your kids are the priority of your life; keep them there no matter what!

3. You have been careful to prepare your kids for the fact that you’ll have a life other than the one with them. But do not forget to make them understand that they will not lose your love, just some of your time together.

4. Chose to date only women that have at least one kid already. A woman without children will not understand you & your children needs & will not have too much patience. Do not forget that children are the best when it’s about to exasperate somebody, & in the first stage your new date will be like a target for your kids jest.

5. Do not leave your partner to baby-sit. In order to keep children safe, it’s necessary to be easily able to discipline them. It’s too soon for your partner to discipline your children.

6. In conflict situation attempt to put yourself in your partner place, be diplomatic with your child & attempt to be impartial. Find the golden mean to resolve the problems between them.

7. Never chose your mate only because she is getting on well with your child. You have to find some one FOR YOU & YOUR CHILD. Remember that the best for your children is & will ever be their natural mum, the women you just have divorced (for some good reasons I believe). So find a woman that you’re attracted to, a woman you find interesting AND that is willing to accept your children too.

8. Pay attention to her children too, & never forget that they’re the priority of her life.

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