Relationships, Romance and Dating
Can having another baby save a bad marriage?
My friend is married to a guy who is having cheating issues.
She just found out. In fact, he tried to get this new girlfriend
pregnant !!
He broke all contact with this girlfriend. Now, my friend
thinks if SHE has another baby with him, it will save thier
marriage.
What do you think?
Thanks
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about 1 year ago
I think your friend is evil for wanting to bring an innocent child into her relationship problems.
about 1 year ago
Nope!
about 1 year ago
Actually, it would probably have the opposite effect. A baby is a human being, not a marital aid or saver. If a relationship is having problems, the last thing a couple needs to add is a child.
about 1 year ago
No. The child will suffer from this.
And she will still end up alone.
about 1 year ago
No way.
about 1 year ago
Your friend is stupid. Sorry. That won’t fix what is wrong with her marriage.
about 1 year ago
Having a baby will not help the situation. It will only shift focus for a time.
If he is cheating on her now, he will probably cheat on her later as well, Baby or no.
about 1 year ago
tell her not to do this its a terrible mistake and she will regret it,,he will leave anyway and she will be left to raise a child on her own
about 1 year ago
I think it’s crazy. Having a baby now will only add to the problems that they already have.
about 1 year ago
Eff the marriage – it would undoubtedly ruin that poor child. Evil, selfish, irresponsible idea.
about 1 year ago
No, because it will not help in the long run.
about 1 year ago
Your friend is a fukkkking MORON!
Seriously, you have to take a test to drive a car, but any woman who knows how to spread her legs can be responsible for the next 18 years of a human life.
Personally, I hope she miscarries.
about 1 year ago
Babbies can sometime bring families together just because of it. It may work it depends on what kind of man he is. Sometimes it does sometimes it doesn’t. All i can say is she can try I mean what kind of a father would just leave it’s baby I think it has a chance of working. Tell her that she should try. It could make a difference.
about 1 year ago
trust me not a good idea once a cheat always a cheat help her to get over and move on with her life that would be a good friend.
about 1 year ago
I bet not even one person here will think its a good idea.
however if she do go on with it, have her put a side a few thousand $/month .
the kid will need it for her/his shrink.
about 1 year ago
No im 13 and my mom did that. please do everything you can to stop her because my mom did that when i was 2 years old . and when my little sister was 8 months old my dad was out of my life . they were divored and babys should be born into a happy loving family. i know this is going to sound sad but i think i have more common sence than people in there 20s 30s or 40s …. wow
about 1 year ago
It can actually have the opposite affect. Never use an innocent life to repair something. I’ve known a couple people who stopped taking their birth control in order to get pregnant and have a “miracle baby,” and their men each bounced.
about 1 year ago
No. As a victim of divorced parents when I was younger, I know first hand that divorce can really traumatize a child with problems that will stay with them for the rest of their life. Having another baby won’t fix it, it will prolong their suppressed issues.
about 1 year ago
No!!! She will be stuck at home with 2 kids instead of one while he is out trying to spread his seed
about 1 year ago
Are you kidding me? Lets see. Lets get the woman fat and disabled and see if that saves her marriage. Or lets stick a crying, fussy infant with the couple 24/7 and add a bunch of stress and see if that saves their marriage.
I’m all for couples having babies, even if the marriage isn’t perfect, but a baby does not save marriages.
about 1 year ago
You can’t fix STUPID!!!!
about 1 year ago
NO! Another baby will usually sooth things for a while. However, the real issues are still there. Why he had another one? Where was she failing? Usually when a man has another it is because the wife is not fulfilling her side. As for me I love to have two women and it is the way that I function. As long as I have two I am fine. Is that guy like that?
about 1 year ago
She just opened herself up for a rude awakening. Babies don’t save marriages that are based on lies and cheats. Before bringing a baby in, these problems have to be resolved and, there’s so many diseases out there. Why waste time with a cheating husband? Move on. There is nothing to save once he slept with another woman and tried to get her pregnant. But, why are you so concerned?
about 1 year ago
This tactic never works and your friend is very dumb to think it will. The guy will just leave her high and dry. She will be stuck with two children and it is just bad any way you look at it.
about 1 year ago
NOOOOOOO, GETTING MARRIED OR HAVING A BABY, TO TRY TO SAVE A RELATIONSHIP, ONLY MAKES IT WORSE.
about 1 year ago
Have to agree with all these others, hon… your friend will end up supporting two kids by herself, not just one
Kids aren’t bonding, they are divisive…. and they put a bigger wedge into an already troubled marriage.
Your friend is an idiot
And it is her chidlren who will suffer.
Tell her to save the next baby for a REAL man, not a cheater.
about 1 year ago
No. A friend of mine was in a bad marriage with his first wife, and they had one child. She got pregnant (accidentally) with their second, and split up when their second child was six months old. A baby is rarely a magic bullet for a bad marriage, and it is not fair to put them through a divorce.
about 1 year ago
Having a baby has never saved a relationship, married or single.
If its not working it dead find pastures new.
about 1 year ago
NO no no no no no no!!
No wayyyy!
Whether a baby can save the marriage or not is a totally different matter, but a baby should not be brought into the world with that kind of intention behind it. It should be brought into a loving household and to a family that wants a baby to shower their love on him or her, and express their love for each other. Not because it *might* save the marriage.
Can you imagine how the poor kid will feel when it grows up and eventually finds out (and trust me it will) the purpose of why he/she was brough into existence? AND especially if the marriage didn’t last anyway?
Don’t let her do it.
about 1 year ago
Well if she has enough kids he won’t be able to afford to leave … [/sarcasm]
Why would she want to stay with a man who cheats on her?
A million babies won’t turn him into a good person
about 1 year ago
If she gets preg that will definitely be the end of their marriage for sure.Maybe not right away but it will happen because a new born baby needs all her attention so the husband gets left out at least that’s the excuse he will use when he cheats again.
about 1 year ago
it won’t save her marriage. it will only make it worse. finally he will leave her for another girl, and she will stay with that baby.