There is a certain science to LDS on line dating. Many may be unfamiliar with the simple procedures & rules of on line dating that I’ll call Online Dating Etiquette,” for the sake of definition. Online dating etiquette can be very simple & in the long run save you the trouble of wasting time & offending those you have contacted through the LDS dating website you have joined. So here are some handy tips on proper on line etiquette to help you land a response & a date from that special some one you have been hankering to email.

  • If you want to make a good first impression in your email, do not just ask, What’s up?’ or the ‘Joey’ from ‘Friends’ inspired phrase of, ‘How YOU doin’?’ There is no way any self-respecting LDS on line dater is going to reply that… Do write a clever email, something engaging that you think some one would be compelled to write you back because of it… Make yourself sound interesting, & ask personality specific questions. Be creative; random works too.

  • Ok, here’s a tough one. A lot of girls get a lot of email from guys, especially if the girl is seriously hot. Many times a girl will open your email & read it, but not reply because she has dozens more to open, read & reply to. So if she does not write you back, chances are she’s not interested enough to start a conversation with you… It is ok to email again, but twice or two times is definitely enough without a positive response. Do not actually be a pest & email her until she writes you back annoyed?no one likes an emailing pest. I guess this can go the other way around too; both guys & girls need to take note.

  • Explicit emails are never a good idea. You are on an LDS dating website! Hello?? The people on these sites are probably not going to appreciate a distasteful solicitation. I will admit, if I get one from a guy, I get mad, not turned on.

  • Do not actually be creepy. That is obviously self-explanatory.

  • Be gracious. If some one writes you back saying they are not interested, do not actually be offended & write an angry email back to them telling them that, they have missed out on a good thing’ & then ending the angry email calling them names. Here’s a tip: not every person is going to be interested in you, & honestly it is ok. You yourself are probably not interested in virtually everyone that emails you… Just be gracious & either write the person back with a polite, ‘Thank you for letting me know’ or do not write back at all, both are fine.

  • If you live anywhere within an hour or two of each other, do not drag on the email process of contacting some one & writing back & forth without actually meeting soon after. You’re on an LDS dating website for a reason, which I am guessing is to find a date, so go on a date! I personally feel a bit frustrated & then bored with a guy I am emailing if there is no apparent effort being made to meet. It also makes me a little suspicious of the person too. I will start to wonder after a while when it has been month or two & I still have not met the guy. I’ll start asking myself questions like, ‘Are his pictures really of him or is he pretending to be some one he’s not?’ or ‘What if he’s married & just messing around?’ It starts to get a little scary when there is not any effort being made to meet. So meet if you feel you might have a connection sooner rather than later, but also use your instincts & be smart about whom you meet.

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