LDS on line dating can be tricky. How do you know if there will be chemistry when you actually meet in person if you feel chemistry already online? Will it be the same? I’ve had numerous experiences dating on line from LDS dating websites (because I’m LDS) with this very question. It is scary to meet some one for the first time & you do not want to blow it because you think that there could be definite potential when you mesh so well through emails & talking on the phone. But the attraction, a lot of times, does not follow all the way through to when you actually meet a person face to face for the first time.

First off, make certain you share similar beliefs & values. Being LDS, dating those who share your LDS faith can be a major bonus when trying to connect. Not only will you be easily able to discuss things with the same intent, but it will make the chemistry easier to maintain without fights over religion. I have dated non-members & it seems the subject always rears its ugly head into the conversation, which eventually snuffs out the chemistry that was once there.

It’s hard to get a good feel for people over the internet. Being the internet, you can come across the inevitable whack-job, even on LDS dating websites, they always seem to sneak their way in through the cracks. But aside from the occasional whack-job, people tend to make themselves look better on paper, so to speak. So to actually get a good feel for them, you have to meet people in person; there is no other way around it… Sure, you can email & chat all you want, but keep in mind it’s easier to write something down because you have more time to analyze & think of just the right thing to say.

Girls tend to always think ahead when it comes to relationships. The handsome husband, the cute house & white picket fence, forty billion of your own kids running down the isle during Sacrament meeting? the Mormon dream. I hate to admit it, but I’m notorious for this, day dreaming about some guy I totally mesh with over the Internet. Why do we girls do this? In all honesty, it’s fun to think about your future life together, but do not put too much stock into it… Also, if you’re clicking with some one you have never met in person & you’re already making engagement & wedding plans with them before you have even met, it is not a good idea, do not even go there. The disappointment, if you two do not have chemistry in person, could be very hurtful. My heartfelt advice, just do not do it.

Ok, so what if you have put a lot of time & effort getting to know some one & you finally meet & there is nothing, nada, zilch, not an ounce of chemistry between you two, but you do not want to say anything because you have wasted so much time already with this person? Well, it is not a great idea :idea: to pretend; actually it is a bad, bad, idea. Do not pretend to like someone, it not just builds resentment but can hurt more feelings in the long run if you do not tell them straight out that the chemistry just is not there. It may be that they’re feeling the same way but are just too embarrassed :oops: to say something. More than likely, you’ll be doing both of you a favor if you’re honest & up-front about the situation.

My advice is to be fully aware & accept the fact that there will not always be chemistry when you meet. If you keep this in mind, & there isn’t chemistry, it will be a disappointment, but will also be much easier to accept & move on. But if you’re lucky enough to have amazing chemistry with some one when you finally meet, then go for it.

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