What does it look like to find God in your divorce or separation?

Consider the image of a flower on a battlefield. While the battle rages all around, the flower remains?resting in peace?with complete ease?and total grace. This image gives a great metaphor; you’re the flower; the battlefield is your separation & divorce. The image represents what’s possible as you grow closer to God during your break up.

If you are like me, your separation & divorce can occur as a battlefield?fielding a noisy battle that rages in your mind & never stops fighting – to fix, change, control, be right, & get from here to there to have more peace, happiness, & fulfillment.

If your separation & divorce has turned into a search for peace & happiness, & your ‘search for peace & happiness’ has turned into ‘an exhausting battle of thoughts that generate anger, anxiety, fear, & turmoil’, here’s some good news?

The ‘peace of a flower’ is IN you?right now?even in the midst of the battlefield of your break up.

How do you experience that level of peace? Through surrender?so God can take up more residence inside you… Filled with Him, you become like a flower because you’re filled with His Peace – the Peace that passes all understanding.

Since His Peace ‘passes all understanding’, when we are all wrapped up in the box of our own understanding, it is impossible to experience God’s presence & peace. Since an experience of His presence is beyond our thinking, any attempt to think our way to God will become a fruitless battle for Peace?that only He can bring when we give up the fight.

How much of His Peace you experience, is directly related to how much of your understanding (what you think you ‘know’ about your separation & divorce) you’re willing to surrender. It is simply not possible to fill the God-shaped hole in your soul with your own ‘stuff’ (beliefs, opinions, & understanding about your separation & divorce). Through surrender, God can do in & for us what we’re unable to do in & for ourselves.

The first step to surrender & giving Him room to work, is having faith that the ‘desert’ of your break up isn’t a ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’ place to be. It just happens to be where you are. You may not have chosen your separation & divorce. However – that does not mean you can not select to be with ‘what is’…right now. You can say ‘Yes’ to your desert’ experience (your divorce) in the same way the desert fathers said ‘Yes’ when they chose the literal desert for growth in Christ.

From that perspective, the desert is an opportune place to be. Your separation & divorce is an opportunity to say ‘Yes’…to that place?for that purpose – to grow closer to God.

God knows your struggle. Therefore, turn to Him in sweet surrender; give up your need to ‘be right’ & make others ‘wrong’. Die to yourself & that part of you that demands to be in control & run the show called your life. Turn your suffering over to God & open yourself up so He has room to do different, more life-giving work in you… Ask God for His Peace to enter you for healing & wholeness.

Until that is done on a heartfelt level, we will never know what it’s like to be in the midst of a difficulty, like a separation & divorce, but filled with The Peace that passes all understanding. We will never know what it’s like to truly rest in that Peace?where we simply & graciously just BE with our break up… like a flower on a battlefield.

Copyright 2007

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How To Bounce Back And Be Happy When Life Blows You Down.
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