For whatever reason your previous marriage did not work out & naturally you have got mixed feelings about forming new relationships after divorce. You’re frightened of choosing the wrong person & making the same mistakes. You feel like you can not afford emotionally, mentally & financially to go through all that pain again. And yet still… your heart knows that there’s love out there for you & that you have a lot of love to give too. Somewhere inside you still believe it is possible to create blissful relationships even after a divorce. Listen to that wisdom. Hang on to that hope. Because it is true. You do not have to repeat the same patterns of emotional problems or communication problems in relationships. You can learn new relationship skills that will enable you to form a great romantic partnership that grows from strength to strength. Here are 3 love tips to help you on your way to fabulous, fulfilling new relationships after a divorce….

1. Make sure you have really learned your lessons
It is frightening how many of us repeat the same mistakes over & over. It is like we carry some kind of internal ‘relationships’ template & we attempt & apply that same pattern of behaviour every time we’re in an intimate relationship. When forming fresh relationships after divorce, throw out the inner template. Clearly it did not work for you last time. Why repeat the same things? Come at your new relationships with nothing but a desire to discover new ways of being together in love. Understand that a relationship is a journey of discovery. It is an adventure that you navigate through. You will experience storms, tempests, hurricanes, fog, & times when it seems like you’re becalmed & nothing is happening in the relationship. Hold to your destination: love. Be true to your guiding light: love. And enjoy the journey.

2. Transform from powerless to powerful
Break the spell of the mundane & go within to really feel your feelings. Inside is where the magic of your life happens, not in the outer world. You’ve felt the pain of divorce & maybe you have deliberately numbed yourself to your feelings. There is more. That’s okay, it is natural to protect yourself that way. Just realise that you fall in love & out of love in your head, in your thoughts & feelings about someone. As you can control your thoughts & manage your feelings, you have creative power over how your relationship feels to you… Right now, you could be in bliss if you wanted to. Or you could let your mindtalk create an experience of pain & self-pity. It all depends on what thoughts & feelings you select to focus on. When building new love relationships after divorce it pays to take responsibility for your thoughts & feelings. Nobody else can make you feel bad :cry: or make you feel good without your participation. You’re the one who chooses how to process what you’re experiencing. When you experiment with this you’ll rapidly come to realise that you’re free to be happily single if you select to be or to enjoy wonderful, warm, passionate, affectionate relationships. You are the point of power in any relationship. For this reason you have 100% ability to create a wonderful relationship.

3. Get a better understanding of energy & how it works
By learning about energy interactions you’ll improve your ability to navigate relationships after divorce. You’ll realise that when you get too clingy & attached to some one it actually starts to drive them away, so you’ll know to step back a bit & give them some more space. Give them too much space & not enough affection & the attraction between you’ll start to waiver. There’s a fine balance. And it is an ever-changing dynamic. When you think you have cracked the code, the dynamic will change. Life’s like that… It is designed to keep you on your toes — & keep you growing. Good relationships are alive & organic that way. Remember your romantic vision & your commitment to love as an idea :idea: & guiding principle, that way you’ll always find new, creative ways of building your love relationship. Like most things in life, wonderful marriages are earned through hard work, they do not just happen. That’s the thing that we need to knock out of our silly little heads… this foolish idea :idea: that romance has to be spontaneous & that it will last forever. Even Romeo & Juliet would have gotten on each other’s nerves if they had been given enough time together! Develop a spacious sense of tolerance in your new relationship. Treat it like the ultimate self-improvement program. Each day challenges you to be creative & innovative in your romantic & loving gestures. If you take Love as a characteristic you want to build into your nature, & practice being more loving every day, especially with your mate, you’ll be well on your way to creating a blissful love life.

Get rid of your old templates & learn from those who know how to create blissful relationships, approach people afresh; exercise your creative power over the thoughts & feelings you focus upon; tap into your heart energy & strive to always improve yourself in your relationships. There is more. These are the simple steps that will often help you create new, wonderful, love-filled relationships after divorce.

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Copyright 2007 Anne Amore ~ May you be now & forever blessed with love. So it is.