It is a long time since any man actually believed that this is a man’s world, assuming it ever actually was. Increasingly men feel under attack & no-where is this more true than in the courts. Read details of the very latest divorce settlements, & you get the drift.

Into this frame comes Doctor Ditcher, or Doctor D’ to his clients. His is a subversive business in today’s world; he swims against the tide of ‘fairness’ & takes a totally prejudiced view. He is one sided & one sided only. He works in the UK & the USA representing men & only men. The sexy description is that he is a ‘Privacy Strategist for men,’ dealing in privacy issues generally & financial privacy in particular. What he says he does is that he helps men protect their assets.

‘I had a wake up call when my wife & I broke up & she engaged a Rotweiler of a Lawyer. I got a letter from them threatening me with an injunction the same day as she & I had arranged to go straight to counselling to attempt for reconciliation. That was just the beginning of the worst two years of my life.’ He had been married for 18 years, children, mortgage, partnership in a top 25 Law firm, & a number of investment properties in different places. ‘For the next 6 months I spent every night with my Legal team, usually until 2 or 3 in the morning drafting affidavits & responding to the next risk of commercial castration by the constant threat of Injunction. It was awful.

Eventually we settled down into what I call ‘normal’ litigation; routine hearings, whining & name calling. Do you follow? The biggest surprise :o was how she did all those things that professionally I had known ‘other’ women do, but because of the life we had lived together I never believed she would do. I was wrong.’ Doctor Ditcher had been married for 18 years & had what he thought was a strong family but he found his ex-wife a real surprise :o when they split up. ‘She started using access to the kids as leverage; she visited my blood family & attempted to ruin my reputation with them, she even visited my business Bankers telling them we were about to go straight to court & she would be taking me for a lot of money, not something that gave them confidence in trusting me with continuance of Banking arrangements I had in place. Inside 48 hours I had lost over 2million in commercial facilities previously available to me. She did all this was while I was still meeting ALL the household expenses & paying the kids private school fees & her the same enormous amount as when we had been together. It became clear to me this was only about one thing, trying to extract continuing control over me.’ The lesson he learned? ‘Even women you think you know will go for your balls via your wallet if you relationship goes sour.’

This made him think about the dangers men face in their relationships; ‘I truly believe that most men are straightforward & simple in their approach. They are by nature rational beings but this means they’re at a disadvantage in legal show-downs with an ex-partner. Whether it’s insecurity or fear the woman will nearly always take the careful approach as recommended by her lawyers & go for the jugular so a man is left floundering, reacting rather than pro-actively planning for the war that will always follow a break-up. This can be fatal in the UK & the US which are two of the most unsympathetic legal systems from a mans point of view’

He left his partnership in the city firm & started his completely unique consultancy trading as ‘Doctor Ditcher’. ‘I admit it’s an obvious play on words, but it reflects my approach that men really need to wake up & smell the roses! If a man engages me I show him a number of simple strategies to protect himself & his privacy. In the battle after break-up it’s true that knowledge is key. I show men how to protect their privacy & therefore deprive the woman & her lawyers of information. For other clients I’m retained for up to two years to get them through what can be the roughest time of their lives. Some times I’m the only person they can talk to openly. I attempt to be a man’s one true friend. I give help for men, including asset protection secrets & strategies, occasionally off-shore.’

The most high profile case he’s advised in? He will not say. ‘I treat all my clients with the same degree of confidentiality as if I were still a lawyer. Also, it’s important my involvement remains unknown or it could lead to a woman going back to court in a fishing expedition. Knowing I’m involved means they know the man is protecting his ass!’ Well, if he will not give details of actual cases what’s the most extreme case he’s handled? ‘I have had a number of men who for a mixture of differing reasons ? their spouse/partner being one – wanted a new start elsewhere & I helped them make their plans & put them into effect.’ The results? ‘The people searching for all those men do not know where to start, but those are extreme cases. Most of my clients are ordinary men, usually professional or with good jobs or their own business & they just do not want to hand over fifty percent or more to some one simply because they have been having sex with them for some years. Marriage is not meant to be like prostitution yet ironically, the courts increasingly treat it as a commercial relationship where if you did not negotiate the cost up front they say fifty percent of all you have sounds fair enough! Indeed if the court calculates a mans worth favourably to the wife and, for example, does not take account of some liabilities because her lawyers successfully argue they shouldn’t, he can end up paying her more than 50%! This happens surprisingly frequently.’

If lawyers are already involved Doctor Ditcher says it’s probably already too late to do much, ‘I can give men divorce advice & tips, but many others give male divorce advice as well. Uniquely I can advise them how to hide their assets & money BEFORE a divorce happens as well as helping them through the whole divorce & relationship breakdown. This is a field where planning & preparation are vital. I’ve clients who know things are not good in their relationship, but working with me in the background they stay with their women until their affairs are prepared for D Day ? ‘Ditch Her Day’ as I call it!’ As a retired lawyer he can still advise in the background & help a man deal with his own legal team if lawyers are involved. ‘No one understands a fox like a fox!’ He says. ‘What most clients do not realise at the time is the legal process is a game of chess. If you do not move your men the right way they will not actually be as strong in the game as they could be. To most lawyers you’re just another case. If they can dispose of your case & get their fees for less effort, then have no doubt, they will! Some times you really need to play your own legal team. You are the only person truly on your side’ Well, you & Doctor Ditcher that is!

Doctor Ditcher ? works full time as a privacy strategist for men. If you need advice on privacy issues, divorce or asset protection or assets offshore Then; http://www.doctorditcher.com or email doctorditcher@hushmail.com