Today, as the world is moving very fast towards modernization (specifically the IT boom & the invention of internet), many societal failings have also taken place. And with this dilemma the fact of upgrading the taste of new life partner has also been attaining its altitude. We have seen that women to some extent tolerate men for having an affair but today the fact isn’t hidden that likewise men women are also having affairs.

What is an Affair? There we find many examples around us. A person may be seen fed up with spouse, so starts getting attracted to an appealing person of the opposite sex in the next cubicle. This person is known for years, & it is so easy to talk. S/he just listens. Pretty soon the sharing of intimate problems starts, & now the co-worker tells how hard it has been undergoing this. And then s/he advises the very best way out seemingly which is to just leave the spouse & then maybe the two of them go out to lunch to talk more about it all. Here it’s revealed with this person all one needed so badly during this condition & that is a sympathetic ear, some one who understands the problems & all one is going through, maybe even the first meaningful physical touch s/he’s had for months.

Apparently, not all office relationships lead to affairs, & not all affairs start at work but, this exhibition is an overly simplified & time-compressed way how some people start down the path of cheating on their spouse.

There is no age limit to start having a marital affair. Whether a person has been married for thirty days or thirty years, it’s hard to resist from an extramarital affair. We can not provide a definite number that how many married people are cheating on their spouses? But many studies & estimates normally have shown that more than one-third of men & about one-quarter of women admits to having had at least one extramarital sexual act. Whereas if we enumerate the cases of “emotional infidelity” ? where a spouse engages in an intimate (yet not sexual) friendship with a member of the opposite sex ? the numbers are much higher, probably greater than 50 percent.

In an affair a person regardless of his/her wish adopts dual personality. S/he will always have to hide something from spouse or the person with whom there is having affair. Divorce is more likely to occur when the woman has the affair. And, unfaithful women are viewed more negatively than unfaithful men in many cultures.

Why an affair? Though reasons for affairs are many, often they can be identified; generally, there is one primary reason which may not actually be easily noticeable, especially if that reason feels inappropriate to the person.

Some primary reasons why a married person has an affair is
? S/he is martially unhappy
? There are family problems
? S/he needs some excitement
? Some very good understanding takes place with another person
? Falling in love with another person
? S/he wants to overcome the desire of Lust or Sex
? Revenge the partner
? S/he wants Freedom or independence
? S/he wants to end the marriage

In order to understand the reasons a married person has an affair, it helps to understand a man or woman, how ever, as with any cause & effect dynamic, generalizations may still be made. Factors which make it hard to know the real reasons are that all of us like to think that we are doing things for a reason which makes sense.

An affair has two possible directions: one, the affair continues, or two, the affair ends. There is more. The possibilities encountered on either path are whether or not the spouse knows of the adultery & whether or not the marital relationship ends.

Studying about why married couples have affairs, I came across some aspects amongst which the most significant one related to marital life is having bad :cry: & poor process of communication & consultation.

In the course of my research I found out that communication is central to a healthy marital life. It’s the main source of harmony, love, & the continuity of marital life. The absence of proper communication builds up to conflict that, which then could possibly end the marital life. As well from the religious point of view, in the matter of nursing a child, communication & consultation with each other is very important.

Some Empirical studies have also shown that absence of proper communication, dialogue, & conversation between spouses & married couples give rise to violence & it perishes the wisdom.

If a husband does not consult his wife or vice versa believing that the spouse is incapable of providing a sound & wise decision in any issues related to their martial life, the household, or public affairs then he has also been mistaken & ignorant in choosing him/her as an eternal life partner.

In this essence, married couples must maintain a strong marital bond by having a firm communication & consultation with each other. The moment this process weakens, the marital life vulnerabilities heaps up until the relationship becomes ‘cold’ & this coldness leads to the attempt of one or both couples to find warmth outside the marital relationship giving a gap to marital affairs to be played.

Ismail Ahmed is a Legal Advisor & SEO based Content Writer of http://www.aboutdivorce.org