Relationships, Romance and Dating
In regard to these “emotional affairs” that so many YA users or their spouses are going through?
Does anyone else think that Maybe, Just Maybe the person having the “emotional affair” is Actually Screwing the person they are having the “emotional affair” with and thinks that their spouse will never figure it out if they call it an “emotional affair”???
If you are going to have one of these types of affairs, that would mean you are just absolutely madly in Love with the person for who they are but won’t sleep with them? Why not?
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about 2 years ago
An emotional affair means that yu want to screw the person, but cannot due to distance or some other limiting factor. You’re not going to have an emotional affair with the guy/babe next door!
about 2 years ago
They may live a fair distance away, for one.
Two, they may be scared sh!tless that your husband will beat them to a pulp.
about 2 years ago
Maybe, maybe not – Then again THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS AN EMOTIONAL AFFAIR – No body fluids being exchanged means no affair! Say you were a virgin and you started flirting and talking with someone, would you say that you were having an affair and suddenly not be a virgin anymore? Of course not! So there is no such thing as an emotional affair.
about 2 years ago
I’m scared sh!tless that Tino’s wife will beat me to a pulp.
about 2 years ago
There is risk to emotional affairs possibly turning into a physical affair. But not necessarily. An emotional affair is where two people have association with one another that fulfills their emotional needs. Their spouse/partner may not fulfill their emotional needs (cater to their feelings, consider their feelings, nurture their feelings, show enough affection, share feelings, show enough kindness or sweetness, may not have much conversation that is mentally stimulating, may not share common interest in activities, spouse may not be supportive of the other).
Having an emotional affair is like having a friendship or bond with someone except it extends further into fulfilling a desire that isn’t being met by a spouse/partner. Some people find that they may love their spouse, but that there is a void missing emotionally or mentally for a particular reason or for various reasons. If someone isn’t getting a certain type or amount of attention from a spouse/partner, they may seek the type and amount of attention they need from someone else outside the marriage. This is a form of an emotional affair as well as long as it doesn’t become physical. Some people don’t need their physical needs fulfilled, they simply want their need for attention and mental/emotional stimulation met. Being happy in a relationship or marriage isn’t all about the physical attraction and sex. It’s also about the emotional and intellectual bond that you build with another. If those areas fail to be met in a satisfactory way, then people may seek what they need else where.
A person doesn’t have to seek the attention or mental stimulation they need from others outside their marriage/relationship though. It’s best that they let their spouse know that they are lacking in giving them the attention they want/need and/or the type of mental stimulation they need. Emotional affairs usually occur more often with couples that are poorly matched in the first place. When looking for love and a life partner, people have to keep in mind that they need to seek more than a physical attraction, good sex, and career status/financial status. They need to look at the person on the inside as well (their heart, their personality, their interests). Some people get bored of their spouses because they discover that they don’t share enough in common anymore, or at all ever. So they seek common interest in others outside the marriage.
If your spouse/partner isn’t around much and neglecting you due to working too much, spending too much time with friends, an hobby, cheating, or simply have lost interest in spending time….than these are other reasons why someone may have an emotional affair. Emotional affairs are real, and it’s becoming more common because emotional affairs seem harmless and are sometimes harder to pick up on (not always). However, they aren’t always harmless if it causes problems and more distance between you and your spouse/partner.
about 2 years ago
People tell themselves they’re not doing anything wrong if they’re not having sex, but it’s an affair bc it’s taking away from their marriage-they’re giving the intimacy (emotional, if not physical) to someone outside the marriage.
Is it as bad as a physical affair? I don’t know–but I guess I think it would feel as bad. The only thing is you don’t have a health risk, or risk of pregnancy outside the marriage.
I hadn’t thought about it, but I bet you’re right-some people may just say it’s emotional but it’s physical. If my first husband was caught with another woman he’s have said it started as an emotional affair and blamed me for not meeting his emotional needs! of course, back then we’d never heard of emotional affairs. (I’d find out about other women “friends” accidentally sometimes. I always bought whatever line he sold me about them.)