How do you know your marriage is over, without any extramaritall affairs?

My husband works two jobs and we never see each other during the week only on the weekends. When we are together all we do is argue, we just aren’t used to being together anymore so now we get on each other’s nerves. I am currently looking for a job and taking care of our year old. It seems like we would both be happier apart than being together.
When my husband is home, he prefers to be alone than to be with me and my daughter. But when we are together all we do is argue and I don’t know how much more we can keep living like this. We have been married for 2 years.

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#1 written by free_angel
about 2 years ago

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He’s made his jobs his top priority and there you have it.
#2 written by Dani Addeo
about 2 years ago

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Maybe you guys need to see a doctor and talk about it. You guys should try to make it work. Try to spend some time together. Go to a movie get someone to watch the year old. Good Luck
#3 written by Polski
about 2 years ago

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Move on. Can’t say it any simpler
#4 written by oldmarine08
about 2 years ago

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When you don’t have the same goals, see the same things, want the same things, sopme people just grow apart you know
#5 written by gloop
about 2 years ago

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i’m having the same problem.. too much time spent apart seems to lead to arguements because you get used to having your own space. If you love each other and want it to work then a little extra effort is needed.. talk about it, and set aside some time for each other, when baby gone to bed.. it’ll all work out in the end
#6 written by Immrchevvy
about 2 years ago

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Don’t take the easy way out. Try to make it work first. Counciling is what you both need, then make your decision from there.
#7 written by Gentle Spirit
about 2 years ago

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How long have you been married? Every relationship goes through ups and downs, that’s why the vows state “For richer, for poorer, for sickness and in health…..” A marriage is like a life of it’s own. If your husband is having to work 2 jobs, it sounds like a very stressful time for you both financially. Try to work it out. I’ve been married for 21 years, for the first few years my husband (who’d been married twice before) would always say he wanted a divorce over minor arguments because he didn’t know how to work it out. I’m glad I convinced him we could work things out together.
#8 written by LindaLoo
about 2 years ago

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Well this is NO REASON to end a marriage in my opinion. Whatever happened to “for better or worse”? THIS IS obviously a worse part of your marriage that you just need to communicate through, grow from, improve on and make better because of – not just DIVORCE.

Clearly someone needs to jar some sense into one or both of you and just flat out VOICE the fact that there are some serious issues here that you both need to address and CHANGE so that you are both happy and getting some needs met here because otherwise your marriage might not survive. Make a list – what needs do YOU have that aren’t being met and what do you THINK HIS are also and what do YOU EXPECT FROM HIM, what does HE expect from you and what compromises can you BOTH unselfishly make for each other. I would
highly recommend a great book about JUST THIS Called “The Five Love Languages” (by Chapman) and that is assuming that he wouldn’t go to couples counseling to help here too.

Don’t give up and in so easily here. You have a family – a child that needs a complete family with a father & mother. Obviously something is broken here and needs fixing – but you can both be BETTER for the changes if you are both willing to love enough, sacrifice a little and make it better for your combined futures.

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