Do you know that most affairs end with the married partner going back to their spouse? That’s right. Even though some married men & women spend months & even many years cheating on their spouses with another partner, it’s quite rare for the married partner to leave his/her marriage. The risk of having an affair & being found-out by your spouse today is great. With all of the technology, spy cameras, GPS systems, car tracking systems, tollway scanners & cell phone records, it’s becoming more & more risky, & quite literally, a stupid choice. Why waste the passion on a lover who you’ll eventually leave? Why risk the pain & embarrassment you & your family would suffer? Instead, why not begin to remember why you fell in love with your spouse in the first place.

Most people have a hard time breaking free of the marital traps of a stagnant sex life. Why? Because for one reason or another they have gotten into a groove of being parents, taking care of their elderly parents, working, taking care of household chores, & carrying on with responsibilities,stresses, & the worries that often accompany the good American life. How can you change that? Here are some great ways to put the fire back into your relationship. To start with HAVE AN AFFAIR WITH YOUR SPOUSE!

Be creative for starters. Right. What would it take for you to have an affair with some one outside of your marriage? It would take imagination, sensitivity, being open to new ways of thinking, sharing, & caring, & being daring. You would certainly take a closer look at your personal image, the way you dress, wear your hair, & personal hygiene. You would become a better listener, & you would want to broaden your comfort zone. You might take some dancing lessons, decide to take up a new hobby, set up travel plans, & explore new cuisine.

When the pizzaz seems to have left your marriage, it’s time to consider rekindling that flame. Do not let your children be an excuse. And for that matter, do not let your parents who now live with you, be a hinderence either. You can have a sexy relationship & fulfilling sex life with your spouse if you really try.

ROMANCE means many different things to many different people. What does it mean to you? What does it mean to your spouse? What makes you sexy? (the way you talk, the way you smell, what you read, how you dress, your body parts, where you dine…) What makes your spouse sexy? Think about the following ideas & begin to work your way through the list over a couple of months:

* Call your spouse & say something sexy, or in *some* cases if it works for you, something “dirty.” Ask he/she to meet you away from home if possible. Go to a place away from your neighborhood where no one will know you… Drive in two separate cars if possible. Meet in the parking lot as though you were lovers. Kiss in one or the other’s car, or start in the parking lot. Move the passion into the restaurant. Hold hands, touch each other’s legs under the table. Nothing too crazy. Change your names & ACT as if you’re not husband & wife. Watch the stares that you get.

* Surprise your spouse with a short day trip to a nearby lake & have a picnic. Plan ahead. Bring wine, cheese, slices of fruit, crackers, cold chicken (whatever you like on a picnic), a blanket, radio/CD player, or bring a guitar if you’re so inclined. Dance together, hug, kiss on your blanket. Keep it safe. Be sure that you’re in a safe place because people do get mugged in remote places. Perhaps get a row boat, or go on a pontoon boat ride, do a little fishing, a bike ride. Do something different.

*Stop at a mall & select a fragrance that you would love to smell on your spouse. If you can not afford to buy it, ask for a sample. Wrap it nicely. Buy a piece of lingerie or sexy male underwear for your partner.

*Have phone sex. You could be in the same house, in different rooms, or one could be away from home. You’ll start to look forward to this sexy talk.

*Make a candlelight dinner for two.

*Drive to a new indoor mall & window shop, stop for coffee, & select a new CD together. Play it in the car on the way home.

*Cook together. Go to the grocery store & select sexy foods. Sexy foods may be foods that increase sex drive like certain kinds of shell fish, or it can be foods that look at taste sexy to you… Include a nice bottle of wine.

*Have sex somewhere different in your home. Like on your couch, the living room floor on a blanket, get creative. (Always close the blinds & be certain that no one will walk in on you)

*Take a shower together, or a bath together.

*Try working out together. It’s amazing how many people meet sexy people at their health clubs.

*Give each other a massage with a new erotic lotion/oil that you love.

*Watch a sexy movie together.

*Go for a walk together & hold hands. There is more. Take time to notice the trees, the night sky, & the passersby.

*Take an afternoon off of work & go straight to the Art Institute, or some museum together. Seeing new things can stimulate your imagination.

*Go dancing

*Plan a long awaited trip. Talk with each other once a week about where you want to go, what you would like to do, & what it will be like to be far away from home & all of the day to day grind.

*At home, put the kids to sleep, then see how quietly you can have sex. Pretend that you’re teenagers & your parents might walk in.

*Start making love to your spouse with words. Remember what you love about he/she. His or her eyes, skin, physique, brilliance, humor, whatever turns you on. Leave a note on the bathroom mirror before you go straight to work. Those sticky notes work great. Put a note in his/her drawer, on the coffee pot, his/her briefcase, inside a book, wherever he/she will read it when you’re not there.

*Write a sexy love letter & mail it to your spouse. There is something special about receiving a handwritten love letter in the mail.

*Spend time learning some new activity that the two of you can share for years to come. Try something like golf, swimming, biking, hiking, bowling, play cards, learn photography, take up bird watching, learn about gardening or yoga. Whatever you select make it something that both people will enjoy.

*Ask your spouse out on a date & have it planned. Pick your date up & again pretend you hardly know each other.

*Storms create alot of energy, sights & sounds. Some people quite enjoy making love during a rain storm. Just watching a storm can be sexy. The power behind the lightening & thunder is stimulating to some couples.

*Send your spouse flowers or candy at work or home with a love note attached.

*Do something you normally would not such as go straight to a sporting event. OK. Some times being in a screaming happy :) crowd reminds you of the enthusiasm of youth. Once your hormone levels are stimulated by all that estrogen or testosterone around you, you’ll start to think younger again. Watch how young people act with one another. On the other hand, if you’re younger, watch how tender older people act toward one another.

*During intimate times make things new by beginning the event long before it actually happens. There is more. Then do things differently. Try new positions, be creative; but always make certain that your partner approves of whatever it’s you suggestion either verbally or by your actions.

*Make a point of touching certain body parts that stimulate your partner. Remember that touching can be erotic or irritating. Learn to read your spouse. If she/he does not want to be touched after a shower, do not do it… If you come up behind your spouse while she/he is combing their hair & gently kiss an ear & then fondle a meaningful body part, watch the response. You can vary the tine spent in love making. Once in a while it’s good to have sex & not make love, & at other times making love by taking your time & stretching out the sequence works well.

Having an affair with your spouse can be wonderful, exhilarating, fun, & vastly rewarding. Having an affair with the person you truly love is something that can last a lifetime, create tighter bonds between you, & your entire family. When parents are happy, children can feel it, they can sense it.

Having an affair with your spouse isn’t just about improving your sex lives, it’s about improving your lives in every way. So take it one step further & do more things together, continue to have your own interests, look forward to sharing all aspects of marriage. Honor each other by respecting each other’s wishes, likes & dislikes, & supporting each other as you move through all of the phases of life & marriage.

Certainly there is so much more involved in creating the perfect love affair. This is a start. Use your imagination, your honesty, & your love to make your marriage the relationship of your dreams. You can have a sexy, long-lasting love affair with your spouse. Your spouse can be the lady or man of your dreams if you make it happen together.

True love is worth the effort…

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