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Help for single parents is a necessity in today’s society. In 2000, the US Census Bureau of Household & Family Statistics reported that single parents accounted for 27% of family households with children under 18-years of age. And one out of two children will live in a single parent family at some particular point during their childhood.

It is noteworthy, therefore, to address the completely unique family & social needs of divorced & single parents.

Quality Family Time

The daily routine in most broken family households can be hectic. The majority of single parents work outside the home.

Aside from the need to re-establish some sort of normal daily routine to help children regain their footing, a child’s social needs & quality family time are also important.

Because one parent now must strive to fill a two parent role at least during weekdays, spare time is precious. Creative ways to enjoy family fun & quality time together are a must.

Having children help with Saturday chores & errands, for instance, can be fun. It can also provide opportunity for positive reinforcement of family unity & working together to achieve tasks.

The sweet reward of a family picnic, watching a family movie while eating pizza, or another type of family fun is the perfect topper.

Helping the Insecure Child

Split households often affect children negatively; at least in the beginning. One good way to help an insecure child better adjust to the new family structure is to allow them to talk about their feelings.

Getting up early Sunday morning, for instance, & having breakfast together at the table gives an excellent opportunity for family talks. There is more. Turn the telephone off to reduce the risk of interruptions; omit television & other distractions. Each family member in turn should be encouraged to share what’s on their mind.

Sprinkling praise with correction can assist increase a child’s self-esteem, which will help them feel less insecure; mix 2 parts praise with 1 part correction. For instance, (praise) “I really like the way you have been keeping your room picked up,” (correction) “Could you please attempt to keep your coat & boots in the closet where they belong,” (praise) “Thank you, I really appreciate your help.”

Single Parent Social Needs

Despite the fact you have your child’s emotional & social needs to take into consideration, you also have your own. Juggling job & family without the help of a spouse can be taxing. By reserving time for yourself each week you reduce the risk of “burn out.”

You also benefit your children by being happier & less stressed.

The tips below can help:

1. Accept the fact that there will be times when things are less-than-perfect. As a single parent you can not “do it all,” no matter how hard you try.

2. Do not feel guilty about seeking to fulfill your social needs. It’s healthy for you & your children to enjoy alone time, & cultivate friendships outside the family.

3. Allow time for yourself each week; treat yourself to a movie with friends, go out on a date, have your nails done, or enjoy a bubble bath.

4. Benefit from contact with others who understand the challenges of being a single parent first hand. Join a local single parents group; or an on line resource that connects single parents, for friendship or dating purposes.

Lastly, single parent dating calls for wisdom. Go slow; avoid persons who would make a poor role model for your children. Avoid introducing a date to your children prematurely. Allow yourself adequate time to get to know the person first.

Respect & honor yourself as a single parent. And above all else, respect your children’s feelings; help them to always feel they’re an important part of your life.

Bonnie Foshee, Parenting Expert You are missing out if you have not signed up yet to receive all the free parenting tips & articles. Click here now to sign up to receive your free parenting tips. This article can also be easily found at Single Parent Dating.