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The first big step in moving from an on line relationship to one in the real world is talking on the phone for the first time. As a guy, you’re probably going to be ready to take that step before your on line match. With good reason, women approach on line dating a bit more cautiously than men. Your best chance to talk to her on the phone & eventually meet her is to allow things to move forward at a pace she feels comfortable. You should be willing to take things slow & let her be in the driver’s seat. When you want to talk to her on the phone, simply let her know that you’re willing to give her your number when she is ready.

Get A Few Calling Cards
There is a good possibility that you’ll end up communicating with women that are outside your local calling area. Local toll calls can be quite expensive. A way around this is to get a calling card. Costco has calling cards for 2.9 cents a minute, for local & long distance calls. This compares to 10+ cents a minute from your local phone company. Offer your calling card number when you give her your phone number. Over & above the cost savings, it shows the woman that you’re thoughtful & considerate. I would suggest that you have many calling cards & you think about using a new one with each woman that you talk with on the phone. If a on line match doesn’t work out, you can use the remaining minutes for your own phone calls.

Conversation Topics
Before your on line match calls you on the phone, review her profile & your correspondence with her. Use the information from her profile & your correspondence to come up with a few conversation topics. Write down four or five friendly questions that you would like to ask her. Should the conversation drag or you get a little flustered, you can use one of your questions to help get the conversation back on track.

Send An E-Mail After Your First Phone Call
If you had a successful first phone call, before you go straight to bed, send her a short e-mail saying that you enjoyed talking with her. This accomplishes many things:

1) It lets her know that you’re still interested in getting to know her.
2) It terms of the next communication, it puts the ball in her court.
3) Her response will give you a sense of her level of interest.
4) It’s the very best way to help move the relationship forward without you looking pushy.

Talking on the phone with your on line match is a big step. Making sure she feels comfortable is the key to a successful first phone call.

Timothy Mahar runs the website RomanceForEveryone.com which includes both online dating advice for men & online dating advice for women.