DON NOT EXPECT MARRIAGE TO AUTOMATICALLY MAKE YOU HAPPY.

Many people enter into marriage with unrealistic expectations only to be frustrated after some time. God expects you toto be whole & happy :) with yourself before marriage, that is one of the purposes of the single stage-to equip so that you’ll find true peace & fulfillment in Christ.

If you’re not happy :) before marriage, you can not actually be very happybecause of marriage. Do not expect of marriage what it’s not primary designed for because the joy, peace & happiness of marriage can only be experienced by those who enter it with joy, peace & happiness.

THE WAY YOU LEAVE YOUR SINGLE STAGE DETERMINES THE WAY YOU ENTER INTO MARRIAGE.

Marriage is a vacuum & it’s what you bring into it that will fill it… If you both come in unhappy, you’ll have an unhappy marriage.

Marriage doesn’t give you what you want, buy it gives you who you are.

DON’T MARRY A STATUS, SYMBOL, IMAGE OR A TITLE

God ordained marriage to take place between a man & woman & not a man & an image or a woman & a title.

- I plan to marry because she is from a rich family
- I will marry him because he is a Bishop & I’ll be a first lady in his ministry.
- She was the beauty queen of a popular beauty pageant.
- He is a tope football star etc.

These are just examples of reasons why not to marry anyone. God expects you to marry a person not an image, status or title because people are always different outside this public image & title . CHECK IN NOT OUT.

Things are not always the way they seem, & most of the time people are different in their private life from what they’re in public. After the shows, the performance & the acting, the real person goes home & that is what you really marry, so it is wise to look before you leap.

AVOID EVIL UNION DUE TO A PERVERTED LIFESTYLE.

All over the world today, immorality & unrighteousness have become a normal way of life & this tide has subtly crept into the church. When God ordained marriage, it was to be a heterosexual union.

Neither homosexuality nor lesbianism has a place in His original plan. But today we see homosexuality & lesbianism becoming an accepted way of life by a deceived people, group & society.

You can not know about a product more than the manufacturer & to operate a product contrary to the instructions on the manual is an error.

God is the Author of marriage & the bible is His manual, thus, anything contrary to the Word of God is an error, so do not yield to the evil of perverted lifestyle ? SEE DELIVERANCE FROM SUCH EVIL DESIRES.

Homosexuality, lesbianism, bestiality, incest etc. are all contrary to God’s divine order. It takes negative & positive to produce power, so also it takes make & female to produce fruit. PUT YOUR LIFE IN ORDER.

HANDLE AGE DIFFERENCE WITH WISDOM AND MATURITY

A close study of the Bible reveals that the man is usually older than the woman he marries. There is more. This is a general trend all through the Bible.

However, it’s not a sin for a guy to marry some one older than him or for a sister to marry some one younger than her. Marriage with reversed age difference requires wisdom & maturity from both partners, & they must be willing to pay the price & abide by the rules of such union.

Don’t seek or set your mind on having such reversed marriage but, if it happens, go ahead as long as you’re sure you can handle it.

I can give testimonies of reversed marriages where everything is working fine & I can also give testimony of reversed marriage filled with regrets & frustrations, so allow God to be final decisive factor.

One major thing to watch out for isn’t to marry some one older then you as a man that you can not husband or some one younger than you as a woman that you can not submit to.

DO NOT MARRY SOMEONE WHO PROMISE TO CHANGE LATER

Anyone you meet as an adult with negative traits & who promised to change after marriage is a devil in disguise.

If they have not changed all through their growth stage before you met them, if they have not changed all through their years of serving God & going to Church, then for them to claim they will change after marriage is a deception.

SOMEONE THAT GOD HAS NOT BEEN ABLE TO BREAK AND CHANGE CANNOT BE CHANGED BY MARRIAGE.

However, you should discern people’s sincerity, because some people only get to discover their weaknesses & hidden evil trait during their courtship through their partner, because no one has ever been open & close enough to make realise it.

CHANGE IS A PROCESS BUT DISCERNMENT MUST BE IN PLACE TO UNVEIL DECEPTION AND HYPOCRISY.

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