If you are tired of not getting the girl, you might want to take a look at how you are speaking to women & just what it’s you are saying to them.

Your looks are only going to get you so far & since first impressions are everything, your conversational skills will be the determining factor in whether or not a woman agrees to go on a date with you… If you have ever wondered why women keep telling you no, the following article will shed some light on the common flirting mistakes you have been making & how you can avoid them from now on.

Mistake #1: Talking ’serious’ around women

Chances are you did not catch her eye by being Mister Serious. You were probably laughing & joking around (in other words, being yourself) with your friends. But, when you walk up to her, you think she wants to see that you’re composed, sophisticated, & you can carry a mature conversation.

Solution — Be yourself. Do not actually be afraid to open with a crazy question that one of your friends just asked you… If she laughs, you are in. You do not need to walk up to her & pretend that you have it ‘together.’ Do not attempt to be something you’re not — most women can see right through it.

Mistake #2: Asking boring questions

So, what do you do for work? Yawn. If you want to shoot down your chance of moving past the handshake, then keep firing off the ‘Top 20 Small Talk Questions to Ask When Meeting Someone New.’ It works at Christmas parties & church picnics, but not when you’re trying to get the phone number of the hottie in the coffee shop.

Solution — Ask questions that demand more than a one-word or one sentence answer. Ask questions that might reveal something about that person. Ask questions that challenge (but certainly not insult) a person. That is how REAL conversation is started.

Mistake #3: Communicating too directly

“I’ll call you tomorrow around lunch time…” STOP, what you’re doing, & leave a little bit to the imagination. Telling her every little thing takes the game out of it — for both of you… Men constantly give away too much when they talk to women, & it works to their disadvantage. Provide too much information, & it might just be more than she wants to hear.

Solution — Listen more, talk less. Do not give away the details. Right. Women are naturally attracted to the chase, so you might as well give it to her. They can not resist wondering… “When is he going to call… Is he going to call… ??”

Mistake #4: Letting the conversation drag

Whoa! This is one of the most commonly committed errors by men — talking too long & trying desperately to keep this hot chick in front of you for as long as possible. Until, of course, the conversation starts to lag & you find yourself toeing the floor in front of you, repeating things that were funny :lol: at the beginning of the conversation, & then finally the dreaded 10 seconds of silence before saying… OK, well I will give you a call. You know what I’m talking about.

Solution — When you get to the peak of a conversation, leave. I do not mean just walk away in mid-sentence, but while both of you’re talking & laughing, just casually look at your watch & say something like, “Oh, sorry… I have got to meet a friend in about 10 minutes…” Note: Leave with phone number in hand (or at least make certain she has yours).

Mistake #5: Sucking up too much

You’re so pretty. I love your smile. Awwww… that is so nice, but she does not give a damn. Interestingly, most women (especially the super-attractive ones) react more favorably to teasing rather than sucking up. Sucking up does not give you the backbone, & certainly does not exude the confidence you really need to land the girl.

Solution — Get a backbone & make this girl realize that she is not going to bowl you over with looks alone. Stick out your tongue, or comment on something in her teeth. You give the impression that your standards might just be a little higher than hers… she will be intrigued to say the least… & she will not exactly know why.

Mistake #6: Talking without intention

If you fail to plan, then you should plan to fail. That saying is as old as dirt — but it is true. So why would you go up to a girl without an end plan? I do not know either. Are you after her number? Do you want to give her yours? Or are you propositioning her for the evening…? No matter how you slice it, you better know where you’re headed, or you’re going nowhere with her. Do not just talking for the sake of talking — that is how you end up at Mistake #4.

Solution — If you want to end up getting her number, then you really need to talk your way into getting it… It is not a manipulation thing, but you really need to work yourself into a place where it seems appropriate to ask (or to give her yours).

Mistake #7: Do not know what to say

In reality, the other six mistakes never come into play because most men never let themselves get past this point. Ever walk up to a girl & open your mouth & nothing comes out? Me either… but you can imagine the feeling if it actually did happen. That’s why we talk ourselves out of stepping up to the plate in the first place. We have no idea :idea: what to say. We are afraid to be ourselves, we do not want to ask boring questions, we only know how to suck up to pretty girls, we’re deathly afraid of ’silence’ & we do not have a plan. Perfect, so let us not even go up to her.

Solution — Wake up fellas! The only way you’re ever going to knock the ball out of the park is if you get in the game! You can not get the girl by sitting on the sidelines. Arm yourself with a plan, do not ask boring questions, intrigue her, tease her, keep her guessing — & start landing the ladies you want!

You can not sidestep the flirting part, yet it’s where most men make mistakes. There is more. The unfortunate circumstance is a constant merry-go-round of rejections, or worse, could-have-hads-but-chickened-outs. Master the art of flirting & you’ll notice your social calendar bulging at the seams!

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